Peeps......my issue is one I think many females have when it comes to being a single female at my age in my environment. After this, you all will know exactly where I am coming from.
I don’t have the fastest, cutest, adorable PINK car (saying that since that colour defines the XX chromosomes from the XY chromosome); I have a SUV, a black SUV, which I love with my all. I may not wash it every day and scrub its tyres till it shines in all awesomeness, but I love it.
I don’t have the typical lifestyle, I don’t train for the potential of getting the most “grope – able” ass and the tiniest of waist in which a number six (6) washer can fit and the sexiest of legs for some man to look and lust at. On the whole I am not the trophy mantle piece. I train and work out so I can survive day to day with all the shit that happens... this is what I gathered from the daily headlines, and with the lessens I have learned from Purples.... Yes I am looking for your ass... God forbid I get my hands on you I will demolish your skinny, uneducated, can’t even hold a gun properly flat brimmed hat self...... ( waow went off on a tangent again.... sorry...back to the issue at hand) ..
I don’t dress in the high ass heels and pencil skirts with the shirt tucked neatly in showing off every curve and crease. I dress in slacks on a Monday and Tuesday with a jersey and a cardigan and the remaining days I switch my slacks to a pair of jeans, completed with a jersey and a cardigan. People call it the preppy look but to be honest I could not care less, and yes to top it all off.... FLATS!!!!! OMG!!! A female in flats!?! How unheard of?
I don’t sport an engagement ring or a wedding ring of any type. I wear very ODD and HUGE oddly shaped rings that somehow everyone has something to say about it. Some remark that never brings a smile to my face, it never does, the only facial expression they get is one eyebrow going up and the lips are straight across my face (of course, this is in my head, I can’t get one eyebrow up, I can only hope the people get what my face is trying to say). To be honest I like the fact that my odd rings don’t have to compete with the plain OLD wedding band or diamond chipped I LOVE YOU sets (of course this only means something to the couple for a few months then it’s just a piece of jewellery that ties you to agony, hurt and castles in the sky). I am not bitter, but it is the truth.
I don’t walk into company events sporting the model on the GQ magazine cover. Introducing myself and Mrs. GQ. I waltz in as myself in a pair of jeans and shirt or maybe a nice dress and my oversized ring asking for my friend.... the bartender....I then perch with my glass of cranberry and vodka (the taste of pure alcohol kills me) and watch the misery unfold. I look around and everyone has lost their unique identity to their mate. They try their best to look like the female version of the man that they are with.
Now know well, I am not saying that I don’t want to get married, nor have a partner for the rest of my very successful life (just wanna throw that in the mix). But, I don’t want to lose me, just for the sake of the other person. I want to be me and I want someone wants me to be me and not the female them... I AM NOT A TROPHY NOR A DITZ....
Also, females that be hating, you all need to stop, don’t throw unnecessary talk to independent females that prefer for instance get their hands dirty in a vehicle engine by themselves instead of running to a man to get it done. Nothing is wrong with doing it yourself. It does not mean we (the independent female) need men less, but, we have no problem learning how to do things and getting it done on our time.
A relationship should be a mutually beneficial agreement to cherish each other and what can be brought to a communal table, still not losing your foundation nor identity.
To be truthful, I like me and I like me just fine. I wish never to be anyone else, smaller framed, dainty, needy, and having a man define who I am.
My independence is a BIG deal for me, so females, be happy with who you are and don’t change your unique nature and build for anyone else.
Thanks goes out to:
Pair of jeans
Oversized Ring
Black SUV
BLESSINGS FLOW!
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